Does God Come First?

I heard something today, that God should ALWAYS come first in your life especially your marriage. I hear this often, that God should be number 1 and your spouse should come second, that nothing should come between you and God, not even your partner. I also hear that before you find that partner, your ministry and life should already be established. I am getting married in a year and I find that I have a problem with this idea. I do not disagree with the general theory but I have noticed that people over use this concept, in fact it can be so overused that it becomes a wedge between the couple.

I think that people can use this saying as an excuse to do their own will without stopping to listen to the other person. They use loyalty to God as an excuse that turns in to a tool to divide the relationship. For me, my fiancé comes first and we decide together what God would have us do as a couple. Our ministry, our life, our decisions. God does NOT come first in my relationship with Morgan, Morgan comes first and together I pray we find what is right. I do not decided what God would have me to do alone, separate from her. Our life is about to become one, and what God would have me do better involve her or it is not God that is speaking to me, but my own faulty opinion.